I Need My Dad
My dad and I have something in common that my two sisters don't seem to have with him.
I'll give you an example. I think it was Friday night, when I found myself emotionally upset and I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. I just didn't feel right. I felt like something was missing and I figured that I was just tired or going through PMS. After going through this kind of feeling most of the evening, I began to cry and informed my husband "I need to see my dad." Tim just smiled, with a knowing look on his face, and said "Yes, you do." Tim's so wonderful! He is there for me when I'm going through stuff and simply allows me to go through the mess until I figure out the answer. I learn so much about myself during those times. Tim just gently guides me in the right direction and then rejoices when I find the answer. He's gonna' be a great dad, himself.
Well, I never did get around to seeing my dad that night, although it was tempting to jump in the car and go to his house and wake him up from his sleep to visit with him. When Tim and I got home from evening church services Sunday, there was a message on the answering machine from my dad! I wasn't the least bit surprised since I was having the strong feelings a couple days prior to that.
Dad felt my need and came to my rescue as soon as he could.
Dad told me, on the answering machine, that he just wanted to check in on us and talk for a while. He said "I just couldn't stand it any longer." Do you have any idea how important that makes me feel?! I told Tim that I knew he would call or show up at my door soon. I asked Tim if he knew how I knew that and he said "because you had been thinking about him". Tim has gotten use to mine and dad's relationship over the years and knows pretty much what to expect from us.
When my dad is upset emotionally, I feel it. When my dad's brother was dying in Texas and dad went there to be with him, it was emotionally draining for him. I felt my dad's emotions inside of me all the way up here in Ohio. I just kept telling Tim "My dad needs me!" Well, my dad ended up calling me that day! He opened up to me and cried and asked me to pray for my uncle.
When dad hurts, I hurt and when I hurt, dad hurts. We just sense things about one another without actually knowing what's going on. That's all I know. I don't understand why or how it works. It just does.
This makes me think about what it must be like for God and Jesus in their Father-Son relationship along with the Holy Spirit. The three of them are separate and yet they are so close to one another that they are as one being too! They are 3 in 1. Whatever one feels, the other 2 feel. My dad and I aren't THAT close but we still are moved emotionally in a very mysterious way when one of us is upset about something. Dad and I have always been this way but just since my dad has become a Christian and has the Holy Spirit living inside him, as I also do, our link to one another's emotions has increased quite a bit!
The Holy Spirit is a marvelous gift from God that draws those, who invite the Lord Jesus Christ to live inside their heart, together as though they are one. There have been many times that God has spoken to me about a certain subject only for one of my brothers or sisters in Christ to say the very same things during the same day! Sometimes God doesn't feel like I've fully heard what He's had to say on the subject and so He sends others to repeat it to me.....hahaha! I don't care how He does it, as long as He never stops giving me His attention!
2 comments:
I understand what you mean. My mom and I used to be that same way when I was a child growing up in my parents' home. Enough has transpired to write a book about since then, but we aren't really that way anymore. But God has been faithful to bring a wife into my life that is. Since we began to live our faith 6 years ago, God has progressively knit us together. Now we sense each other's thoughts and feelings often before they are communicated.
I am sure that being married and having that connection with your dad has brought some special challenges to your marital relationship, though. It is good that you have developed an understanding with Tim on this issue. And I am glad that it frees you to enjoy the blessing of the relationship with your dad.
Jared
PS Still thinkin' about that new chefs knife.
I have never had any problems with my marriage concerning my closeness with my dad. If anything, it has caused Tim to love me more and see a different side of me involving my parents. I've never really thought about it hurting a marriage before. That's interesting. I suppose if a person found themselves closer to their parents or to someone else more than their spouse, it would cause problems. I am happy to announce that no one is more important to me than Tim unless of course it's Jesus Christ. ;)
Thanks for commenting, Jared.
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