Tell your spouse what you need

"Understanding human needs is half the job of meeting them"-Adlai Stevenson



There's a reason you hear "women's intuition" and you don't hear "men's intuition". Let me explain.

Yesterday, I had a terrible headache all day and did alot of lying around and moving from here to there in slow motion. Tim knew I didn't feel well but unless I told him exactly what I needed done and when to do it, things did not happen. Last night when we went to bed, we were lying there watching t.v. I kept saying how much my head hurt and I just kept rubbing my head and pulling on my hair for relief. I was just about in tears from the pain and decided to take some medicine for it. I asked Tim to get me some and so he did. I continued to lie there in bed complaining about my head hurting while I waited for the medicine to start working.

I lie there thinking about how I always rub Tim's head when he has a headache and how he never seems to rub mine unless I tell him to do it. Didn't he know how bad my head hurt? Can't he see that I need my head rubbed?

I then, in a typical female way, looked over at Tim and said "What do I do when YOU have a headache?"

This did not go over very well. He then told me that I didn't need to use guilt to get him to do something for me. All I needed to do was to ask him and he would do it.

It is amazing to me that you need to be direct with a man and never assume that he knows what you are thinking. You need to tell a man exactly what you want done and when you want it done. Then he will do it.

With a woman, she is ultra sensitive with what is going on around her and seems to somehow know what you need and how to do it and when to do it.

I see both of these qualities in God. Man was made in His image and therefore God contains qualities of both men and women. God has incredible intuition and knows exactly what you need Him to do, but at the same time, He wants you to be direct and ask Him to do it.

Pray!